Erickson's Psychosocial stages

He's really right you know. We all have a common crisis we deal with in various stages of life. Old people deal with Integrity, middle aged folk deal with generativity(did I accomplish anything?), and we (young adults) deal with Intimacy vs. Isolation. I feel this crisis almost daliy; not even business can get rid of it. I think about deeper friendships and who might be a good candidate. Yet many of my relationships remain shallow, I feel condemned to isolation. to make is worse, it seems even more hopeless when it comes to intimacy in romatic relationships.

I haven't really had any deep relationships in this category (noteworthy or not). The closest thing I come to is listening to Jazz ballads (see previous post). I can almost imagine a romantic slow dance (yes a guy can find that to be a good thing too). I'm not just talking a desire for physical intimacy, this is a deep longing foe a soul mate; someone to talk to about everything. Someone who I know I can be open with; I don't have to watch my words, they can just flow. I'd like to not worry about saying the wrong things. Instead, I'd love to vent, rant, or just talk.

Erickson says that if the crisis goes unmet it can result in stunted psychological growth. I don't want to be an unwhole person. More personally, I don't want to feel alone. We are a loner culture but deep inside lies a desire for meaningful relationships. I want that.